Have you ever given a toast? Whether it is a wedding, birthday, or other exciting celebration, a well thought toast truly highlights one’s wit and thoughtfulness. Giving a toast is synonymous for giving a gift, especially if it is well thought out and meaningful to the recipient. While it may seem overwhelming at first, there are several tips that are imperative to ensure that your big moment is a big success.


Avoid “Me,” “My,” and “I” to ensure that the main emphasis is the guest of honor.

While it is only natural for us to take pride in our extended time of relationship with the guest of honor, the focus should not be skewed from them. Phases such as, I have known Jane for fifteen years, may be true but are better left out of the toast. Use your time with the mic to edify the guest of honor for their best qualities.


Timing and Planning are Everything

Having a plan is essential to overall success in your speech. When is the best time during the event to say your piece? Identify this early on and stick to your plan. Additionally, concerning timing, do not make your toast long and drawn out. Preparing what you are going to say ahead of time can keep you from fumbling around with words, and making a toast with a clear and concise line of thought.


It is Always the Thought that Counts

The overarching theme of the toast should be thoughtfulness. Each statement that is extended to the audience should be an encouraging display of the guest of honor. While humor can be appealing in some contexts, try to avoid this avenue and make sincerity your priority. Additionally, be sure that your behavior is in line with the words that you are saying to ensure authenticity.


Should I End with the CLINK?

In movies after a grand toast is delivered, we always see those listening clink their glasses with one another. However, despite popular belief, this is not an obligation that guests are expected to uphold. Rather, simply raise your glass towards the center of the room and take a sip of the beverage. Nevertheless, if someone does happen to extend their glass towards yours, politely return the gesture. The decision is yours to clink or not clink.


Wait Your Turn

At certain events that are less formal, it is always proper to never toast before the host. In some cases, such as weddings, there is a precise plan in place for when people will speak and this serves as an exception. When attending an event such as a New Year’s party, never rise to speak before giving the host a chance to do so.


When it is time to toast you will be ready. Next time you have the opportunity to say a bit and raise your glass, keep these simple tips in mind.